Craving to consume a thousand calories in one sitting ???

Have you ever had a craving for something that you knew wasn't good for you, but you just couldn't resist?

That's the feeling of an oral-dependent wish - a desire driven by laziness and greed, particularly in the realm of oral satisfaction. It's like a little voice inside your head that says, 

"Just one more cookie won't hurt!" or "I deserve this fancy coffee even though it's not in my budget." 

But beware - these desires can quickly turn into overindulgence, impulsive actions, and a constant need for sensory pleasure. You might find yourself binge-eating, overspending, or seeking instant gratification through indulgent activities.

 And the more you give in to these desires, the harder it becomes to resist them in the future. The laziness aspect of oral-dependent wishes can be seen in a reluctance to put in effort or engage in activities that require discipline, persistence, or delayed gratification. 

It's so much easier to take shortcuts or opt for the quick fix than to work towards a long-term goal. And then there's greed - the insatiable desire for more, even beyond what is necessary or reasonable. This can lead to excessive materialism, hoarding, or an inability to appreciate what one already has.

 It's a never-ending cycle of wanting more and more without any regard for the consequences. 

But there is hope! 

By recognizing these tendencies within yourself, you can strive for a balance between satisfying your desires and maintaining self-discipline, mindfulness, and consideration for others. It's all about developing a sense of moderation, self-awareness, and gratitude.

So next time you feel that little voice inside your head, take a moment to pause and ask yourself if it's really worth it ??? 

 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐤 𝐲𝐨𝐮!

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Crying Pillow: Comforting yoU Through Stress & Sufferings

Enduring suffering involves a deep exploration of UNCONSCIOUS processes, defence mechanisms, and the dynamics of the mind.

Problem-focused coping and emotion-focused coping are two types of

Coping strategies that individuals use to manage and regulate their responses to stressors.

Each approach involves different behaviors, techniques, and attitudes to address the source of stress and maintain psychological well-being.

Problem-focused coping

Problem-focused coping is a proactive approach that seeks to manage or overcome the source of stress directly.

This strategy involves identifying the specific stressor or problem and taking active steps to address it.

Individuals who use problem-focused coping engage in

👉 problem-solving behaviors and

👉 efforts to change the situation causing stress.

Example: if an individual is stressed about an upcoming exam, they might use problem-focused coping by creating a study schedule, seeking help from a tutor, or practicing effective study techniques. By focusing on the problem itself, individuals can feel more in control

Problem-focused coping can be effective in situations where the stressor is within the individual's control or influence. It can help reduce feelings of helplessness and increase a sense of agency in managing challenges

However, this coping strategy may not always be feasible or appropriate for all stressors, especially those that are uncontrollable or beyond immediate resolution

Emotion-focused coping

Emotion-focused coping is a reactive approach that aims to regulate the emotional response to a stressful situation. 

This strategy focuses on managing the emotional distress and psychological impact caused by a stressor. 

Individuals who use emotion-focused coping may use strategies such as 

👉 seeking social support, 

👉 engaging in relaxation techniques, 

👉 practicing mindfulness, or 

👉 expressing emotions through creative outlets like art or music.

 These techniques aim to alleviate the negative emotions associated with the stressor and promote emotional well-being. 

Emotion-focused coping can be beneficial when the source of stress is uncontrollable or when immediate solutions are not possible.

 By addressing emotions and reducing emotional distress, individuals can improve their ability to cope with challenging situations and maintain psychological well-being.

 

" As humans, we all have to deal with the problem of suffering. Some people in the East try to get rid of suffering by ignoring it, while people in the West often turn to drugs to make the pain go away. However, the only way to truly overcome suffering is to face it head-on and endure it. This can be a difficult and painful process, but it is the only way to truly move past the pain and find healing. When you feel stuck with no way out or caught in a problem with no solution, it's the start of a journey called "individuation."- Carl Jung.

This also means facing tough challenges and realizing that not everything you decide is right. It helps you understand that the ego, which thinks it knows everything, may not always make the best decisions. Sometimes, when you're stuck in a tough spot, a deeper part of yourself, known as the Self, can show up. This situation pushes you to rely on something beyond yourself to find a way out. It's like going through a really hard time before reaching a better place

It's important to note that a combination of problem-focused and emotion-focused coping strategies may be most effective in managing stress. 

By incorporating both approaches, individuals can address the source of stress while also attending to their emotional responses, leading to a more comprehensive and adaptive coping process. This integrated approach can also help individuals develop a more nuanced understanding of their stressors and enhance their coping skills over time.

Do u need a reason to behave good and be happy?

Ever wondered how your thoughts and feelings impact your behaviour? Well, scientific research on the mind has shown that understanding the relationship between thoughts, emotions, and perceptions is essential to unravelling human behaviour. One of the pioneers in this field was Wundt; he believed that Our thoughts create our feelings & our feelings drive our behaviour. He proposed that feelings can be categorized into three main compartments:

1) Sensations,

2) Feelings, &

3) Emotions.

👉 Sensations are the most basic and direct forms of mental experiences that arise from sensory stimulation, while

👉 feelings are the personal and subjective experiences that accompany sensations and perceptions.  

👉 Emotions are complicated and have MANY different aspects. They are usually brought on by Specific events or circumstances.

[ Feelings are how you think about something, V/s  emotions are how your body reacts to a SITUATION for your feelings of Fear or Anger or many mixed feelings etc ]

By categorizing feelings into these three compartments, Wundt provided a framework for exploring the interplay between sensory input and affective responses. This classification system helped lay the foundation for further research and theories on emotions, feelings, and their influence on cognition, behaviour, and mental health. Understanding the role of feelings in our lives is essential to shaping our perception, cognition, and overall well-being. So, the next time you experience a sensation, feeling, or emotion, remember that it's all interconnected and plays a crucial role in shaping your behaviour.

Do you know???

 According to research, mood disorders are primarily characterized by a disturbance in thought processes.

P.S : 

Do you know the difference between mood and affect?

Imagine that your mood is like the weather in your mind. It's the overall feeling that hangs around for a while. Just like a sunny day can make you feel happy and energetic, a sad mood might make you feel a little down for some time.

Now, imagine the effect is like the clothes you wear to show how you feel. Just like how you might wear a big smile when you're happy or furrow your brow when you're upset, affect is how you show your emotions on the outside. It's like your emotional outfit that others can see.

So, remember, mood is like the weather inside your head – how you feel deep down, and affect is like the clothes you wear to show those feelings on the outside. Both mood and affect help people understand how you're feeling and can change just like the weather or your outfit! 

So when you are sad, Just Fake it until you make it, Smile, and Laugh even though you are hurt. OK?

If you love yourself, how can you feel lonely?

As social creatures, humans thrive on relationships and interactions that shape our internal world. Loving oneself is about nurturing a positive connection with our inner selves, which can give us a sense of security, comfort, and validation. The key is to discern between solitude and loneliness, as both impact our emotional well-being in exciting ways. Learning to embrace solitude opens doors to endless opportunities for self-discovery, creativity, and growth, while loneliness can catalyze change. Let's now understand the difference between solitude and loneliness, as both impact our emotions.

Solitude is being alone, which can be a happy and peaceful experience. It allows us to reflect, recharge, and connect with our inner selves. On the other hand, 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐟 𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞. It arises from a lack of meaningful social connections, emotional support, or a sense of belonging.

Feelings of loneliness can stem from unresolved emotional conflicts, unconscious fears, or unmet needs from relationships. Individuals can address these internal wounds and establish a sense of inner security and connection by cultivating self-love and self-compassion. Individuals who develop a healthy self-regard and internalize positive self-affirmations are better equipped to cope with loneliness and isolation.𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐤 𝐄𝐗𝐓𝐄𝐑𝐍𝐀𝐋 𝐕𝐀𝐋𝐈𝐃𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍 or rely solely on others for emotional fulfilment. Instead, they can draw on their own internal resources, resilience, and self-care practices to counteract feelings of loneliness and solitude. 

Loving oneself encompasses developing a deep understanding and acceptance of one's own inner world, emotions, and experiences. This self-awareness and self-acceptance can serve as a source of strength and companionship, reducing the sense of isolation and loneliness that may arise from external factors or relational dynamics. In this way, self-love can play a crucial role in fostering emotional well-being and a sense of connection, even in moments of solitude.

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐚𝐲 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐛𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞, 𝐛𝐮𝐭
𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐡 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮.

" The one who feels thankfulness is always happy "

Rational V/s Irrational

According to Arie Kruglanski's research, human behavior is not always rational or based on a careful consideration of costs and benefits. Instead, our actions may be 𝐝𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐛𝐲 deep-seated 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 & 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐬, 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐡 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐄𝐌𝐎𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐔𝐑𝐆𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐘. This means that people may make impulsive or irrational decisions when their underlying motivations are activated. This can lead to biased or distorted thinking, affecting how we perceive and interpret information.

For example, an individual struggling with alcohol addiction may be aware of the negative health effects and social consequences of excessive drinking. However, the urgent need for relief from emotional pain or the desire to escape reality may override these rational considerations, leading to continued alcohol consumption despite the negative outcomes.

Love of fate

Amor fati is a Latin term meaning "love of fate". It refers to the position of accepting everything that has happened in one's life without sorrow and accepting all as necessary, irrespective of whether it is good, bad, painful, happy, sorrowful or sad.

Being great means loving everything that happens in your life, whether good or bad. It's like wanting things to stay just as they are without wishing for them to change. Instead of just accepting what you can't change, you should love it, embrace it, and find value in every moment, both happy and sad.

Accept things fate brings to you with all your heart. Love whatever is before you. Accept the universe for what it is.

Eternal Recurrence is another concept that Nietzsche mentions. It questions how one would feel if one discovered that every event in life and every choice one had made, either authentically or otherwise, would recur an infinite number of times.

“What if some day or night a demon were to steal after you into your loneliest loneliness and say to you:

👄 “ This life as you now live it and have lived it, you will have to live once more and innumerable times more ... ”

👿Would you not throw yourself down, gnash your teeth, and curse the demon who spoke thus?

Or

Have you once experienced a tremendous moment when you would have answered him:

💗“ You are a god; I have never heard anything more divine.”💗💕

Authenticity, the main aim of Existentialism, is the full acknowledgement and expression of one's freedom to choose one's actions and to choose one's self within the context of one's situation. This means not conforming to what others, "they," and " society " expect of one.

And acknowledge full responsibility for one's actions and what one has made of oneself without sorrow or regret.

“My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it—all idealism is mendaciousness in the face of what is necessary—but love it”

In conclusion, the philosophy of amor fati teaches us to embrace every moment of our lives, irrespective of its nature—good or bad. It also encourages us to take responsibility for our actions and not conform to societal expectations. The concept of Eternal Recurrence further emphasizes the importance of accepting our fate and finding beauty in it.

Who needs a treasure map when we have our own shadows to explore?

Carl Jung said, " Everyone has a shadow; the less it is integrated into an individual's conscious life, the darker and denser it becomes. Only those who stand in darkness do not have a shadow. "

Shadow Work is a process of self-discovery that involves exploring the parts of ourselves that we have repressed or denied. It is a way to uncover our unconscious patterns and beliefs and bring them into the light of awareness to heal and grow.

Exploring the shadow self can be a powerful way to understand and integrate the hidden or unconscious aspects of our personality, thoughts, emotions, and behaviours.

Based on analytical psychology principles, there are several ways to delve into your shadow self:

 1. Self-Reflection and Journaling: This involves taking the time to reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours and considering keeping a journal to write down your innermost thoughts, dreams, fears, and desires. By writing, you can bring unconscious patterns to light and gain insights into your shadow self. 

2. Dream Analysis: Paying attention to your dreams and keeping a dream journal can offer valuable insights into your subconscious mind. Analyzing your dreams can reveal hidden desires, fears, and unresolved issues that make up your shadow self. 

3. Therapeutic Techniques: Working with a qualified psychologist or therapist who specializes in analytical psychology or Jungian therapy can help you explore your unconscious mind, confront your shadow aspects, and work towards integrating them into your conscious awareness. 

4. Creative Expression: Engaging in creative activities such as art, music, writing, or dance can be a powerful way to express and explore hidden emotions, fears, and desires that reside in your shadow self.

 5. Exploring Personal Triggers: Paying attention to situations or interactions that trigger strong emotional responses can offer clues about aspects of your shadow self that may need exploration and integration. 

6. Shadow Work Exercises: These exercises are designed to help you confront and integrate your shadow self. They may involve identifying and naming your shadow traits, acknowledging your hidden fears and desires, and accepting all parts of yourself without judgment. 

7. Seek Feedback from Others: Asking trusted friends, family members, or a therapist for feedback on your behaviours and patterns can provide valuable insights into aspects of your shadow self that you may not be fully aware of.

We cannot heal what we Hide, Ignore, Cover, or Avoid; they are all our Shadows. By accepting our shadow self, we can start to see how our thoughts and emotions influence our behaviour. When you’re aware of this, you can take control and empower yourself to live life more deliberately and consciously.

By engaging in the above practices and techniques, we can begin the journey of exploring and integrating our shadow self. Embracing all aspects of self, even the hidden or uncomfortable parts, can lead to greater self-awareness, personal growth, and a more fulfilling life.

Even famous people like Jesus and Socrates faced challenges for daring to speak out against wrongdoings and shining a light on the shadows of others. Remember to Be brave and willing to explore your shadows and also help others explore theirs.I just started my journey...

Break up with pain, by wearing the thought control helmet

"I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn't believe them, I didn't suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional."  

— Byron Katie

Emotional healing is a complex process that involves various techniques and practices to help individuals acknowledge, accept, integrate, and process their emotions. It involves several steps : 

The first step towards emotional healing is acknowledging painful life experiences. Acknowledgement is the process of bringing unconscious material into conscious awareness. This aligns with the principles of free association, verbal expression, etc. Trauma, strong emotions, and painful life experiences are often suppressed or denied, which can lead to psychological distress. By acknowledging and exploring these experiences, individuals can begin to release and discharge repressed or unconscious emotions. One way is by the process of catharsis, which involves talking about traumatic experiences or expressing intense feelings. 

According to Freud, catharsis involves expressing and discharging repressed or unconscious emotions, which decreases psychological tension. Therefore, writing your pain on paper can ALSO help you externalize and gain a better understanding of it. You can find potential solutions or a way out by looking at your pain objectively. So, To reach rational and realistic perspectives, examine your thoughts.

The next step towards emotional healing is allowing and accepting emotions. It is essential to acknowledge and accept all emotions, including those that are perceived as negative or uncomfortable. By creating a safe and non-judgmental environment, individuals can begin to express and work through their emotions, allowing for a deeper understanding and acceptance of their inner world.

Integrating painful experiences is also crucial for emotional healing. Integration involves merging conflicting or fragmented aspects of the self to achieve a more cohesive and unified sense of identity. This process can be achieved through self-reflection, interpretation of the unconscious, and exploring the impact of past experiences on current behaviour. 

Finally, processing strong emotions is an essential component of emotional healing. With the help of a psychologist, individuals can work through intense emotions associated with past traumas, conflicts, and unresolved issues. This process involves understanding the underlying meaning and significance of these emotions. By exploring the origins of strong emotions, uncovering unconscious motivations, and gaining insight into emotional patterns, individuals can begin to resolve inner conflicts and achieve emotional healing. 

Remember that the wound is not your fault, but the responsibility of healing it lies with you. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. Our thoughts do not hold power; instead, we control our thoughts. When we identify and believe in our thoughts, we give them power, which can result in suffering. The actual issue is our attachment to our thoughts, and recognizing this can bring about transformation in an instant. When experiencing EMOTIONAL PAIN, simply observe and learn, as life is trying to teach you something. Rather than attempting to numb the pain through distraction, forget yourself in thinking and allow yourself to feel

it."

Everything that can go wrong MAY go wrong; we all will die one day,  families can die, anything can happen, You may suffer badly, people may harm you, we can Face Failures; you could be innocent yet can get trapped or blamed, and that's what life is all about. It won't be fair. To be Angry about it is Not Loving life. Amor fati is a Latin phrase that means "love of fate" or "love of one's fate". This phrase is used to describe an attitude in which one accepts everything that happens in their life, including suffering and loss, as good or, at the very least, NECESSARY.

Overall, emotional healing involves deep self-exploration, insight, and integration of all aspects of the self. By acknowledging, allowing, accepting, integrating, and processing painful life experiences and strong emotions, individuals can work towards a more profound understanding of themselves and move towards emotional well-being and growth. With the right support of others or self-help, healing is possible to achieve a sense of inner peace and emotional balance.

 P.S : Diversions given below are only a temporary escape 

May be Batman feared bats and Spiderman suffered arachnophobia! are u sure they are Perfect ???

 

Vulnerability is essential for human growth and development. Our weaknesses and limitations, often seen as negative traits, provide us with opportunities for growth and transformation. This is because our vulnerabilities reveal our mind's underlying conflicts and struggles. The hero archetype, as described by Carl Jung, embodies the idealized version of ourselves that we aspire to become. The hero is someone who is willing to face their fears and overcome obstacles to achieve their goals. But in order to do so, the hero must first embrace their vulnerabilities and weaknesses. Growth occurs when we confront problems and struggle to master them. Through that struggle, we develop new aspects of our skills, capacities, and views about life.

Vulnerability is also necessary for the development of empathy and compassion. When we acknowledge our own weaknesses and limitations, we become more attuned to the struggles of others. This allows us to connect with others on a deeper level and to understand their experiences more fully. 

On the other hand, an immortal person with no weakness or vulnerability cannot be a hero. This is because the hero's journey is one of transformation and growth; without vulnerability, there can be no growth. An immortal person who is invincible  would have no need for growth or transformation, and therefore could not be a hero.

In conclusion, the " hero " model is a powerful symbol of human potential and transformation. It reminds us that our vulnerabilities and weaknesses are not something to be ashamed of, but rather, they are opportunities for growth and development. By embracing our vulnerabilities, we can become more empathetic and compassionate, and we can achieve our goals through the hero's journey of growth and transformation.

Heroic deeds can be performed only by 

❤ someone vulnerable ❤.
 

An immoral person with no weakness cannot become a hero

Video Song Lyrics - 

Life has made him stronger,

it made him work a bit harder,

he got to think and act a little wiser,

this world has made him a..... fighter.....

Kaalam nanu tarimindho soolamlaa ediristaa

samayam saradaa padite samaramlo gelichestaa..

Life started to be faster,

made him had a little think smoother,

he's living on the edge to be smarter,

this world has made him a fighter

"self-realization" -A Pill that promises to unlock true potential, with ridiculous side effects

Did you know that our personality and behaviour are shaped by unconscious conflicts and desires that mostly arise from early childhood experiences? 

That's what psychoanalysis theory emphasizes on - the importance of the unconscious mind.

Psychoanalysis also offers a framework for understanding how to achieve self-realization - gaining insight into one's true nature, purpose in life, and potential for growth and fulfilment.

 Sounds fascinating, right? 

The ego, which is the conscious, rational, and organized part of our personality, mediates between the demands of the primitive, instinctual part and the internalized moral standards and ideals of society. 

 To achieve self-realization, we need to bring our unconscious conflicts and desires into conscious awareness and integrate them into our ego. This process involves acknowledging and accepting the opposing forces within ourselves and finding a balance between them. 

For example, balancing the opposing forces of confidence and humility can be challenging but crucial for a fulfilling life. It can be understood in terms of the ego's struggle to balance the need for self-esteem and the need for social acceptance. A person who is overly confident may be seen as arrogant and insensitive to others, while a person who is overly humble may struggle with low self-esteem and lack of assertiveness.

 By understanding hidden aspects of ourselves, uncovering beliefs, past experiences and roots of current behaviours and emotions, and working through unresolved issues, we can gain insight into our unconscious conflicts and desires. 

This process can lead to a greater sense of self-awareness, emotional well-being, and fulfillment in life. 

Are you ready to explore your personality more deeply and work towards self-realization?

Double-Bind Manipulation

A double bind is a complex communication concept that involves the imposition of demands or expectations on an individual that ultimately leads to a lose-lose situation. It was originally introduced by anthropologist Gregory Bateson and his colleagues in the context of family but has since been applied to various interpersonal interactions and situations.

 Below are the key elements of a double bind:

1. Contradictory Messages: In a double-bind scenario, an individual is presented with two or more contradictory messages or commands, making it challenging to discern the right course of action. These messages may be communicated explicitly or implicitly, leading to confusion and uncertainty. 

2. Impossibility of Resolution: The nature of a double bind is such that there is no feasible way for the individual to satisfy all requirements simultaneously. Any response will result in repercussions, reinforcing the feeling of being stuck in a no-win situation.

 3. Emotional Impact: Double binds have a significant psychological effect on individuals. They can create feelings of frustration, anxiety, guilt, and powerlessness. The individual may experience internal conflict and struggle to make decisions under such circumstances. 

4. Manipulative Intent: Double binds are often used as a form of psychological manipulation. By placing someone in a lose-lose situation, the person creating the double bind may seek to control the individual's behaviour, thoughts, or emotions through confusion and coercion.

 Examples of double binds can be found in various contexts, including family relationships, workplace dynamics, and interpersonal interactions. 

Example: A parent who tells their child to express their emotions but punishes them for doing so creates a double bind. The child is given conflicting messages about whether it is safe to share their feelings. 

Recognizing double binds is essential for maintaining healthy boundaries, communication, and relationships.

By understanding the dynamics of conflicting expectations and learning to assert one's needs and limits, individuals can navigate double-bind situations more effectively and protect their well-being and autonomy.

Self-help strategies to handle a double bind situation: 

1. Identify the Double Bind: Recognize when conflicting demands or expectations are being imposed on you, creating a lose-lose situation. 

2. Stay Calm: Maintain composure and emotional awareness to think clearly. Follow Grounding Techniques to Relax ->  grounding-techniques#physical-techniques

3. Seek Clarification: Ask for clarification or feedback to better understand the expectations. 

4. Communicate Openly: Express your concerns and feelings about the conflicting demands in a calm and assertive manner.

5. Set Boundaries: Clearly define your limits and values to protect your well-being. 

6. Prioritize Self-Care: Focus on self-care practices to manage stress and maintain emotional balance. 

7. Seek Support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or professionals for guidance and support. 

8. Consider Options: Explore alternative solutions or compromises that may help alleviate the double bind. 

9. Evaluate Consequences: Assess the potential outcomes of different responses to make an informed decision. 

10. Practice Assertiveness: Assert your needs and preferences while respecting the boundaries of others. 

11. Challenge Assumptions: Question the validity of the conflicting demands and consider alternative perspectives. 

12. Focus on Solutions: Shift your mindset towards problem-solving and finding constructive ways to address the double bind. 

13. Take Breaks: Step away from the situation temporarily to regain perspective and clarity. 

14. Practice Mindfulness: Stay present and focused on the current moment to reduce anxiety and overwhelm. 

15. Evaluate Relationships: Consider the impact of the double bind on your relationships and well-being.

 16. Learn from Experience: Reflect on past experiences with double binds to identify patterns and learn from them. 

17. Focus on Growth: Use the experience of dealing with a double bind as an opportunity for personal growth and resilience.

Snakes on all sides ? bus bussshh

 Learning to handle danger is a crucial skill in life. This is particularly true when it comes to handling snakes. If you don't learn the proper way to interact with snakes, you could end up suffering from a snake bite that could lead to serious injury or even death. However, if you learn how to handle snakes safely, you can extract their venom and use it for medicinal purposes or even to control the rat population in your area. 

The key to handling snakes safely is to become immune to their attacks. This means that you need to learn how to handle snakes in a way that minimizes the risk of a bite. You can do this by practising proper snake-handling techniques.

It's also important to have a healthy respect for the MANIPULATIVE snake rather than fearing them. This will help you approach them in a calm and controlled manner, which is essential for safe handling. By respecting snakes and learning how to handle them safely, you can collect their venom without fear and use it for beneficial purposes.

Finally, remember to always THINK BIG and not get bogged down by minor details. When it comes to handling snakes, it's important to focus on the big picture and the potential benefits of learning this important skill. Don't let the fear of snakes hold you back from achieving your goals.

Triangulation TRAP = త్రికోణ vyuham

 Triangulation is a manipulative tactic used by Manipulators to control and manipulate their victims. It involves involving a third party in a situation to manipulate the outcome, creating a sense of competition or conflict between the victim and the third party.

Sometimes, it also includes Distorted truths, such as manipulating facts or information to skew perceptions or mislead others for personal gain.

Here are some signs of triangulation and self-help strategies to handle it:

 Signs of Triangulation:

1. The Manipulator exaggerates a problem or situation to get a reaction from others. 

2. They show interest in someone else to get attention from their partner. 

3. They compare their partner to other people in a disparaging way to make them feel insecure and inferior.

 4. They keep secrets from their partner, making them feel left out and insecure. 

5. They distort the truth or deny events to make their partner question their own reality.

 6. They blame their partner for the problems in the relationship and seek support from outside sources. 

7. They have an affair to make their partner feel jealous and insecure.

 8. They use the children to get their partner to do what they want or to make their partner feel guilty. 

9. They isolate their partner from their friends and family, making them more dependent on the Manipulator for support.

 10. They overcompensate their affections and love towards others to make their partner feel ignored and undervalued. 

11. They have different standards for their partner than for themselves, making their partner feel inadequate.

12. They create drama or problems, causing their partner to question their own judgment or sanity. 

13. Lowering someone's self-esteem or confidence with the help of other people which makes them more susceptible to manipulation.

14. Group PRESSURE: Using the  influence of a group of people, family members or social circle to manipulate your behaviour or decisions

15. Manipulating by highlighting differences or similarities with other people, like comparing a wife with his mother or sister, to influence behaviour or opinions.

Self-Help Strategies to Handle Triangulation:

 1. Recognize the Signs of Triangulation: The first step is to recognize when triangulation is happening. It often involves the Manipulator using a third party to create tension and drama between you and another person. 

2. Don’t Engage in the Drama: It’s important not to engage in the drama. Manipulators thrive on conflict and drama, and if you respond to their manipulation, it will only give them more power. 

3. Set Healthy Boundaries: Setting healthy boundaries is crucial when dealing with Manipulators, especially when it comes to triangulation. Be clear with the Manipulator that their behavior is not acceptable, and let them know that you will not be part of their drama. 

4. Dealing with a manipulative person and their tactics, like triangulation, can be extremely stressful and emotionally draining. Therefore, it is crucial for you to prioritize your self-care. You should engage in activities that make you feel good and help you relax, such as exercise, meditation, spending time with friends and family, or any other hobby that you enjoy. Taking care of yourself should be your top priority in such situations. 

5. Seek Professional Help: If you feel particularly overwhelmed or are struggling to cope with the Manipulator’s behaviour, it may be helpful to seek professional help. 

Remember that you deserve to be respected, loved, and safety First.