natural instinct of Animals - fight.... HUMANS peacefully negotiate for win- win

 It's crucial to understand the reasons behind an Indian husband yelling at his wife, not to justify his behaviour but to foster empathy and find a more comprehensive solution. Exploring the underlying causes can provide insight into his perspective and aid in finding a resolution.

1) 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐥𝐢𝐜𝐭 :

Stress is a common reason for a husband yelling at his wife. High stress levels can lead to increased marital conflict. If a husband cannot handle stress well, he may irrationally express his anger through yelling.He must know how to cope with his stress and find balance & calmness

2)𝐈𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐬 :

In the face of mounting pressures such as mental, physical, emotional, FINANCIAL, and psychological stress, it is not uncommon for a husband to react by yelling at his wife. This can be attributed to a combination of factors, including the lack of effective communication channels within the relationship.

3) 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐬: Lack of effective communication skills leaves him struggling to express himself, escalating frustration—breakdowns in communication fuel emotional turmoil, culminating in aggressive yelling.

Understanding how people think, feel, and behave can help us communicate better. Five ego states influence our interactions with others. The P- Ego state reflects the attitudes and beliefs learned imitating from authority figures we know like father, mother or hero. The Adult ego state is logical and objective. The C-ego state embodies emotions and pleasure-seeking behaviour. The AC-ego state reflects learned behaviours shaped by societal norms, ethics, Morals, and discipline. The FC-ego state represents freedom and authenticity. Recognizing these ego states in ourselves and others is crucial to improving our communication skills and building better relationships.

For instance, when the husband assumes a P-ego role, giving instructions, criticisms or judgments, the wife may respond with a rebellious child - C-ego, resisting his authority. However, understanding and recognizing these ego states can resolve this potential conflict.

3) 𝐈𝐧𝐟𝐥𝐮𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐅𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐔𝐩𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 :

The influence of a husband's upbringing can play a significant role in shaping his behaviour towards his wife. He may abuse his wife due to the negative impact of his family background, where he may have witnessed or experienced abuse, aggression, or controlling behaviour within his family dynamic. This upbringing may contribute to his beliefs about 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫, 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥, and appropriate behaviour in a relationship, leading to abusive tendencies towards his partner.

Research suggests that individuals who experience much arguing in their family of origin are more likely to face marriage challenges. This can lead to destructive conflict within the marriage, creating a lower-quality relationship.

4) 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬

Mental health disorders can also contribute to a husband's yelling behaviour. Conditions such as

- depressive states,

- bipolar disorder,

- generalized anxiety disorder,

- social anxiety,

- obsessive-compulsive disorder,

- PTSD, &

- substance abuse

It can be associated with difficulties regulating emotions, leading to outbursts of anger and yelling.

5) 𝐋𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐟 𝐒𝐥𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲:

Lack of sleep can make individuals more irritable, potentially leading to frequent outbursts of yelling. Suppose a husband is not getting enough sleep. In that case, he may become irrationally angry, manifesting as yelling at his wife.

6) 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐠𝐲: Some husbands may yell to control or intimidate their spouses, seeking to assert power and manipulate through fear. By using aggressive and verbal outbursts, these husbands aim to create a sense of dominance within the relationship, impacting their spouse's emotional well-being and creating a toxic dynamic characterized by manipulation and fear.

This behaviour can create a pattern where the husband yells to extract what they want from their partner. Understanding these underlying reasons for a husband's yelling behaviour can provide a starting point for addressing and finding potential solutions. However, seeking professional help to navigate these complex issues is important and ensuring you feel supported and guided in the process.

Flaw Finders have BIG invisible magnifying glasses & detective hats to turn bits of food fallen on the floor into crime scenes & turn kid's socks into conspiracies!

Have you ever noticed how some people become obsessed with Finding flaws in others? It's like they're equipped with a magnifying lens, scouring every inch of a person's being.

It's a fascinating phenomenon that can reveal a lot about human nature.

There are several reasons why someone might behave like that  : 

1)  Individuals may 

👉 project their own insecurities and fears onto others. 

This can serve as a defense mechanism to 

👉 deflect attention away from their own personal shortcomings or to boost one's own self-esteem by highlighting the faults of others.

2)  Individuals evaluate their own abilities and opinions by comparing themselves to others. When people search for faults in others, it may serve as a 

👉 way to enhance their own self-image through downward social comparison. By focusing on the flaws of others, individuals might feel superior or more competent in comparison,  

👉 boosting their self-worth and self-perception. 

3) People who habitually seek out faults in others may also do so 

to validate their 

👉 own beliefs, 

👉 own choices, or

👉 own  behaviors.

4) By highlighting the faults of others, individuals may feel a sense of

👉 reassurance or 

👉 justification for their own actions,

 leading to a temporary boost in self-esteem or a sense of superiority.Eg: " You are stupid so it is not wrong to behave badly with you, you need to be slapped & CONTROLLED."

5) Criticizing or finding faults in others can be a way for individuals to 

👉 exert power, 

👉 control, or 

👉 dominance in a social or interpersonal dynamic.

6) By pointing out weaknesses in others, individuals may attempt to 

👉establish a sense of authority or superiority within relationships or groups. 

7) Constantly focusing on the faults of others can serve as a 

👉 distraction from addressing one's own faults or shortcomings. 

It may be easier for some individuals to criticize others rather than engage in self-reflection and personal growth. 

These various perspectives shed light on why people may be more inclined to search for flaws in others, but it's important to remember that this behaviour can harm Others.

pari ka papa

 

Schism v/s skew

 Marital skew

 when one spouse denies any negative behaviors or qualities of their other partner. This is observed in domestic abuse cases, where the abused partner cannot see the failures, limits & boundary crossing of the abuser and simply cannot accept that the abuser is doing wrong. . Usually, it is like one spouse taking a submissive role in the relationship and overlooking the faults of the other spouse. 

While marriage requires many compromises, marital skew goes a little further, creating a situation where children and all other people can recognise the problem with one parent. However, the other parent is entirely unmindful/ignorant and in denial of accepting the truth.

Marital Schism

 it is when both the wife & husband know that their marriage relationship is dying. They know they are unhappy with each other, yet they stay married for the benefit of their children. Here One parent can undermine the worth of another by competing for sympathy or support from the children or /and other people 

" Intimacy requires courage because the risk is inescapable. We cannot know at the outset how the relationship will affect us. Like a chemical mixture, if one of us is changed, both of us will be. Will we grow in self-actualization, or will it destroy us? The one thing we can be certain of is that if we let ourselves fully into the relationship for good or evil, we will not come out unaffected " 

- Rollo May

who made this prediction hahaa TAKE MY BOW -PERFECT

 

 If you have to face the same problems your mom & dad met and you are not better than them in dealing with such things, you wasted their lives.

similar example : Injustice ? - fools ? - critics ? 

 

parents Teaching HATE

 

Dad : 

Do you know that "pen is mightier than the sword "? Sharma uncle's son got 1st Rank, so you should defeat him. If you can do that, it means you got little of my intelligence; if not, you are your mother, zero brain

[you are your mother, zero brain - because of these abuses, if daughter does better, mother hates her" why everyone ask about her ? kodi munda,guddu munda? afterall she has no existence without me ,she is rude, no respect for elders,i regret having her & if doesn't get better grades - both parents hate her-- 'we regret having her' -- and his/her age is too less to understand that hatred is only acting,it is more a self created Frustration for them than 'hatred' ]

Kid :

Dady But Why did my teacher ma'am say:  " people like your dad & his friends left their pens and Ran away in a country called Afghanistan?  "

Dad :

I don't have time to talk to anyone ' inside home ' or answer your dumb questions . All are idiots around except ME and its only my bad fate that I have to deal with these fools everywhere

4,094 Ancestors are expecting something but ......heheee result... 000000ZERO

 

Money - Money - Money

 Rama Krishna 

 I have spent so much money on you. Have Gratitude

Ravan Son of Rama Krishna :

 I agree that you have spent money on me, but can you agree on the fact that money is the ONLY thing you did for me? I grew up in hostels; you didn't visit to see me at least twice a year. I felt I was only a burden or a sin you got rid of by throwing money to the society as papa-prakshalana. Whenever I call you or mom, even in calls keeping me online, forgetting about me, you both used to fight over silly things [home or hostel- No peace for me ]. Tell me how you showed your love for me other than money. Day & Night, even if I come home once a while, the only word I hear 24/7*365 is MONEY [ current bill, this bill, that bill, Fees, money, money & money ]

Ok, you spent money on me. But at least was that honest with trust in me or with any hope for me? No. I didn't feel like that. There is no SINGLE - PAISA you spent on me and didn't speak about it with hundreds of people. You go to your audience with the house groceries bill (vegetables bought, basic house things surf, oils etc. and electricity bill etc. with your debit card) and show off to people my child is irresponsible and spends money like anything(you have to buy them to run YOUR family - u don't even know that & you have 2 children) V/s 

while all my cousins 12 years younger than me are using iPhone mobiles, gym protein powders etc. whose parents make less than you earn.

v/s I didn't even buy a dress in the past 5 years. I Never recharged my mobile until the time recharging with a basic plan became compulsory. You are a BIG LIAR. I hate you for that. If you spend ONE rupee on me, you go on the road sharing your pain with too many audiences with lies that you spent 1000s on me ( where is 1 rupee v/s 1000 which you say to people? ). I can never forget how that Idiotic overcurious uncle got up from his chair to see that grocery list thinking your lies were true and asking, " Is that your daughter's phone bill? "- can you imagine my anger & pain? You can never feel them. I know. YOU are a PSYCHO in my view. How can I feel anything for you then? You and mom - were never available to me, even today, to share any of my emotions when I feel like an orphan in this vast world. Nobody is for ANYbody. Tell me how to feel anything for you then?

The everyday fight at home is about money, money, money...

ok.Then did you let me work? No. I got campus placement & you made me RESIGN

Did you check my marks at least once from the time I was born till today? At least once? NO. 

Did you teach me anything about the art of making money or at least any single skill you have? NO

Did you teach me at least basic English? NO

What was my school till 7th class, till aunty took me with her? Silverbells at kharkhana, it is not even a school, it is somebody's house today

Any of your contributions to me other than money? NO. 

Even TODAY, at my 30+ years age, if i want to speak with you for 5 minutes, You are NOT available dady - EGO

" Do you have any financial problems? " -A BIG No. 

Then why always fight about money? I believe it is because you want to control my mother with Money. She is a homemaker. You want control over her and Now rule over me? Impossible, daddy, because I am bigger Psycho than you.

And Gratitude, I always have it, but for your showoff with lies, let us assume I don't have it; even this point can be logically supported. Do you know that? When you say, "After all I gave you birth, I spent money on you." -- when you are Disclosing whatever you spent on me, it means you did NOT do that for me at all. You did that for your need to control me at home & control people with your dramas outside the home in my absence (just the way you speak badly about mom), and so all your generous financial donations to me were a contract with hidden terms, Isn't it ??? But is this not an INVALID CONTRACT as per THE INDIAN CONTRACT ACT, 1872 ??? 

How much ever I do, WHATEVER I do, I only get criticism, Untruths, negativity and demotivation from you - Where is Love?

Don't worry; I will always have Gratitude, but I just wanted to vomit my bottled-up anger on you. You were NEVER there for me as support(except financially) in my past & I know you will never stand for me even in the future, but I will have GRATITUDE that you spent money on me. YAA Gratitude !!! Nothing to worry about it, please! Because I also have my grandpa's Honest genes in me

one must be a SHEEP ...............

The attempts to convince others is a mark of insecurity.... a man with the mind is always independent of the good opinion of others...

" When you are your own best friend, you don’t endlessly seek out relationships, friendships, and validation from the wrong sources because you realize that the only approval and validation you need is YOUR OWN ” - Mandy Hale


In order to be able to be an irreproachable member of the herd, one must, above all, be a sheep
- Albert Einstein, “Aphorisms for Leo Baeck” (1953)

Argumentum ad populum - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argumentum_ad_populum

When many people in general or of a particular group accept a belief as true is presented as evidence for the claim. Accepting many people’s beliefs, without demanding evidence as to why that person accepts the belief, is lazy thinking and a dangerous way to accept information.It was people like Copernicus, Galileo, and Kepler, who refused to appeal to the common belief and uncovered a truth not obvious to the rest of humanity

• Why did they house arrest & Torture Galileo?
• why did Michael Servetus got Burned at the stake ?
• Aren't they Majority who burned alive Raja Ram Mohan Roy's Brother's wife on her husband's Funeral pyre? (if I use the word " widow/s " you might bring chanikya neethi etc & say women are #### people on earth...so I have specifically mentioned about his sister in law who had her brand of honesty, ethics, purity etc all her life )
• Weren't they the Majority who cruelly punished & crucified Jesus?
• Weren't Kauravas the Majority in Kaurava-Pandava Yuddh ?

Logical Form:

A lot of people believe X.

Therefore, X must be true. How can so many be wrong at the same time?

Example :

Up until the late 16th century, most people believed that the earth was the center of the universe.  This, of course, is not true.

Earth remained Geoid even when all people of the world THEN believed that its Flat

" If the majority of the people were abnormal, then 

the "abnormal" will be called normal and vice-versa "

The Bandwagon Effect :

Are we going to think for ourselves?

The bandwagon effect is a phenomenon whereby people do something primarily because other people are doing it, regardless of their own beliefs, which they may ignore or override

Even the greatest teachers and experts make mistakes. Be your own teacher and evaluate what is important to you - never take a teaching at face value - zen stories

courtesy :
https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Herd_mentality

https://www.logicallyfallacious.com/tools/lp/Bo/LogicalFallacies/24/Appeal-to-Common-Belief

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201708/the-bandwagon-effect

blind

The higher you go, the smaller you seem to be for those who do not know how to fly...so spoke Zarathustra!You have a seed: when you look at the seed you can find no indication of the flowers that will grow from it. There is not even a clue of what it can be. Will it be a lotus -- blossoming in the water but remaining untouched by it, dancing in the rays of the sun? And the sun too may become jealous, of its beauty, of its tenderness, of its incomparable glory and grace. Its perfume will fly into the sky. Looking at the seed this cannot be known. Looking at the seed one cannot even imagine, cannot even guess. But one day it happens.

So we can think in two ways. Either we can hold tight to the seed and say, "What is not visible in the seed cannot happen in the lotus either. It is an illusion, it is a trick, it is a lie." This is the standpoint of those we call rational, skeptics. They say what is not visible in the seed cannot be present in the flower -- something is wrong. Hence a skeptical person cannot believe a Buddha, cannot accept a Mahavir, cannot embrace a Jesus, because he says he already knows them.

When Jesus came to his village he was very surprised -- the people of the village didn't bother about him at all. Jesus has said a prophet is never respected in his own country. What is the reason? Why won't the village respect its prophet? The village people have seen him as the son of the carpenter Joseph, saw him carrying wood, saw him planing wood, saw him sawing wood, saw him bathed in sweat, saw him playing and fighting in the streets. The people of the village have known him since childhood, have seen him there as a seed. How is it possible that he suddenly becomes the son of 
God! No, those who saw the seed cannot accept the flower. They say there must be some fraud, some cheating; this man is a hypocrite.

Buddha returned to his village. And the father --
what the whole world could see, the father could not see. The world was experiencing an illumination, the news was spreading far and wide, people began coming from distant countries. But when Buddha came back to his home after twelve years, his father said, "I can still forgive you. Though what you did was wrong, you tormented us, you have certainly done a crime, I have a father's heart -- I will forgive you. The doors are open for you. Throw away this begging bowl, remove these monk's clothes. None of this will do here. Come back -- this kingdom is yours. I have become old; who is going to look for it? Much childishness has gone on, now stop all this play!"

Buddha said, "Please look at me. The one who left has not returned. Someone else has come, the one who was born in your house has not come back. Someone else is here, the seed has returned as a flower. Look deeply."

The father said, "You are going to teach me? I have known you since the day you were born! Go and deceive others; go and lecture other people and delude them -- you cannot deceive me. I repeat again, I know you perfectly well -- don't try to teach me. I am willing to forgive you."

Buddha said, "You say you know me? I didn't even know myself before. Only recently have the rays of light descended and I have come to know myself. Excuse me, but I have to say that the one you saw is not me. Whatever you saw is not me. You saw the outer shell, but did you look inside me? I was born out of you but you did not create me. I came via you as traveller comes via a certain route, but what do the traveller and the road have to do with each other? Suppose that tomorrow the road says 'I know you, your being has come from me' -- just as you are saying.

"I existed before you. I have been on this journey for many lives. I certainly passed through you, as I have passed through others. Others too have been my father, others too have been my mother. But my being is completely separate."It is very difficult, extremely difficult: If you saw the seed you cannot believe the flower is in front of you.

One way of looking is that of the distrustful, the rational, the skeptical. They say, "We know the seed so this flower is not possible. We know the mud: how can a lotus come from it? It is all false -- a dream, an illusion. He must have fallen into a kind of hypnosis. Someone deceived him; some magic, some spell...."

This is one way. The other is the way of trust -- of the lover, the devotee, of the heart filled with empathy. He sees the flower and from the flower begins travelling backwards. He says,
 "When the flower has become so fragrant, when such radiance appears in the flower, when there is such beauty in the flower, when such fresh innocence is seen in the flower, then certainly it must also have been present in the seed -- because it is not possible that what is present in the flower was not already in the seed."

It is not that these stories actually happened. Those who saw flowers bloom in Ashtavakra concluded that what has happened today must have also been present yesterday -- it was hidden, screened, behind a veil. What is here, in the end, must have been present at the beginning also. What is seen at the moment of death must also have been present at the moment of birth; otherwise how could it arise?

So one way is to look backwards from the flower, and the other is to look forward from the seed. If you look carefully at their essence it is the same, their foundation is the same, but what a difference: like between earth and sky! The one who knows the seed says, "How can what is not in the seed be in the flower?" This is his argument. The one who knows the flower says the same thing. He says, "What is in the flower should be in the seed too." They have the same argument.

But each has a different way of looking.

  Your Majesty, in the curve of a temple, is the sky curved? When a pot is smashed, is the sky smashed? The sky is beyond change. My body is twisted, but I am not. Look at the one within. You can't find anything more straight and pure. Butchers see skin, the wise see being.

 - said Ashtavakra

Ramakrishna to younger Vivekananda :

If I say, "Look how beautiful these ironwood trees are," and you say, "I don't see any beauty -- Trees are just trees. Prove it!," it will be difficult. How can one prove they are beautiful? To be beautiful you need a sense of beauty -- there is no other way. You need eyes, capable senses -- there is no other way. It is reported that Majnu said, "To know Laila you will need the eyes of Majnu." It is true; to see Laila there is no other way.
The king of his area called Majnu and said. "You are mad! I know your Laila -- an ordinary girl, jet black -- nothing special. I feel sorry for you, so here are twelve girls from my palace -- they are the most beautiful women of the country. You can choose anyone you like. Seeing you cry, my heart also cries. "
Majnu looked at them and said, "There is no Laila among them. They cannot even be compared to Laila, they are not even worth the dust of her feet."
The king said, "Majnu, you are mad...!"
Majnu said, "That may be so, but I must tell you one thing: to see Laila you will need the eyes of Majnu."
Majnu is right. To see the beauty of trees you need an eye for art -- there is no other proof. If one wants to know love, one will need the heart of a lover -- there is no other proof.

courtesy : http://www.balbro.com/maha/geeta12.htm

 If I've inadvertently hurt
 someone's feelings,
 I apologize !
 that wasn't my intention

Self serving unconscious motives are disguised as socially accepted conscious motives. Example: ( Narcissistic) Self love psychological motive of parental love, where the desire to adore & idealize oneself gets transformed into adoration & idealization of one’s children

- David J. Buller is Associate Professor of Philosophy at Northern Illinois University.

OUR system of education makes people unfit to function in the real world - Ayn Rand

To stunt a mind means to arrest its conceptual development, its power to use abstractions—and to keep it on a concrete-bound, perceptual method of functioning.This is what educators today are doing.

The Real purpose of education is to teach a student how to live his life—by developing his mind and equipping him to deal with reality. The training he needs is theoretical, i.e., conceptual. He has to be taught to think, to understand, to integrate, to prove. He has to be taught the essentials of the knowledge discovered in the past—and he has to be equipped to acquire further knowledge by his own effort.

This much is true:

the perception of reality, the learning of facts, the ability to distinguish truth from falsehood, are exclusively individual capacities; the mind is an exclusively individual “affair”; there is no such thing as a collective brain. And intellectual integrity—the refusal to sacrifice one’s mind and one’s knowledge of the truth to any social pressures—is a profoundly and properly selfish attitude. The goal of modern education is to stunt, stifle and destroy the students’ capacity to develop such an attitude, as well as its conceptual and psycho-epistemological preconditions.

Comprachicos is a compound Spanish word that means “child-buyers.” The comprachicos traded in children. They bought them and sold them.

 what did they make of these children? Monsters. 

Why monsters ?
 To laugh. 

 The people need laughter; so do the kings. Cities require side-show freaks or clowns; palaces require jesters … To succeed in producing a freak, one must get hold of him early. A dwarf must be started when he is small … Hence, an art. There were educators. They took a man and turned him into a miscarriage; they took a face and made a muzzle. They stunted growth; they mangled features. This artificial production of teratological cases had its own rules. It was a whole science. Imagine an inverted orthopedics.

 Where God had put a straight glance, this art put a squint. Where God had put harmony, they put deformity. Where God had put perfection, they brought back a botched attempt. And, in the eyes of connoisseurs, it is the botched that was perfect … 

The practice of degrading man leads one to the practice of deforming him. Deformity completes the task of political suppression … The comprachicos had a talent, to disfigure, that made them valuable in politics. To disfigure is better than to kill. There was the iron mask, but that is an awkward means. One cannot populate Europe with iron masks; deformed mountebanks, however, run through the streets without appearing implausible; besides, an iron mask can be torn off, a mask of flesh cannot

 To mask you forever by means of your own face, nothing can be more ingenious … The comprachicos did not merely remove a child’s face, they removed his memory. At least, they removed as much of it as they could. The child was not aware of the mutilation he had suffered. This horrible surgery left traces on his face, not in his mind. He could remember at most that one day he had been seized by some men, then had fallen asleep, and later they had cured him. Cured him of what? He did not know. Of the burning by sulphur and the incisions by iron, he remembered nothing. During the operation, the comprachicos made the  patient unconscious by means of a stupefying powder that passed for magic and suppressed pain … 

In China, since time immemorial, they have achieved refinement in a special art and industry: the molding of a living man. One takes a child two or three years old, one puts him into a porcelain vase, more or less grotesque in shape, without cover or bottom, so that the head and feet protrude. In the daytime, one keeps this vase standing upright; at night, one lays it down, so that the child can sleep. Thus the child expands without growing, slowly filling the contours of the vase with his compressed flesh and twisted bones. This bottled development continues for several years. At a certain point, it becomes irreparable. When one judges that this has occurred and that the monster is made, one breaks the vase, the child comes out, and one has a man in the shape of a pot

The production of monsters—helpless, twisted monsters whose normal development has been stunted—goes on all around us. But the modern heirs of the comprachicos are smarter and subtler than their predecessors: they do not hide, they practice their trade in the open; they do not buy children, the children are delivered to them; they do not use sulphur or iron, they achieve their goal without ever laying a finger on their little victims. The ancient comprachicos hid the operation, but displayed its results; their heirs have reversed the process: the operation is open, the results are invisible. In the past, this horrible surgery left traces on a child’s face, not in his mind. Today, it leaves traces in his mind, not on his face. In both cases, the child is not aware of the mutilation he has suffered. But today’s comprachicos do not use narcotic powders: they take a child before he is fully aware of reality and never let him develop that awareness. Where nature had put a normal brain, they put mental retardation. To make you unconscious for life by means of your own brain, nothing can be more ingenious. This is the ingenuity practiced by most of today’s educators. They are the comprachicos of the mind. They do not place a child into a vase to adjust his body to its contours. They place him into a “Progressive” nursery school to adjust him to society.

The purposeful, disciplined use of his intelligence is the highest achievement possible to man: it is that which makes him human. The higher the skill, the earlier in life its learning should be started. The same holds true in reverse, for those who seek to stifle a human potential. To succeed in producing the atrophy of intelligence, a state of man-made stupidity, one must get hold of the victim early; a mental dwarf must be started

MORE : http://www.stephenhicks.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/RandAyn-The-Comprachicos.pdf

Mom & Son

He is a Down syndrome child
he poops in his dress even at age 19
His immune system is weak. So frequent health disturbances
Cannot use mind even for the smallest things
Needs someone to take care of him all life
Chances of becoming like a normal child are very less etc etc etc

Going to vocational classes where even normal people go to learn handcrafts & money making skills .He is going to the same class 5th time in a Row & even if people talk & comment on it,he cannot understand & even he laughs along with them.....

and mom routinely tells him :

" At least this time try to give your test.you should not fear exams.Do you think your classmates are more intelligent than you ?

 you know more than them because you have been learning the same from long time.

You know , even i was like you all my childhood.....very silent , No friends and now you got my genes and so even you are silent & slow.I know that you are very smart. At least smarter than me but you act dumb to escape responsibilities.

Acha , you think that you can cheat on me ??? i know every single thing about you & i can analyses your every act .Don't think u can cheat me by acting dumb.... "

This is MOM & THIS ALONE IS LOVE

Those that are visible on pillion bikes & lover's parks ...*shit*  - it is not Love 

Things to learn from her :

• She Accepted what cannot be changed and left it at god's feet
• She has been working hard Consistently from past 19 years to change everything she can to make him a normal human
• Her hard  work is not for Money or fame or any thing that is selfish.It is all for  LOVE - for her son,Not as a Responsibility but only ONLY ONLY bcz of LOVE