Love is Blind :p :p

Source - Inspirations by Sudhir Krishnan 

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  I am studying in college, and am in a romantic relationship with a boy from my class. There are two major complications

  
  1) We are from different caste and we know that we have no future together.
  2) I am nearly 2 yrs older than him.
  
  Twice I have told him that let us be best friends and live a healthy relationship, but it seems that is not possible. When we go away from each other for the above reasons, we are not happy and we come together again. I'm very confused and do not know what to do. Being in the relationship hurts and also not being in it hurts! Can you please help me out?
  

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  Dear,Age is simply the time that has elapsed since this body was born. Also, who made the rule that the boy should always be older than the girl? Even if others have made this rule for biological/psychological development reasons, does it make sense to blindly conform to these generic rules without examining whether it applies to our life? Similarly, caste/religion is identification with a subdivision of society into which we were born. What has age and caste to do with with being human and sharing love with another human being?
  
  The mind breaks the wholeness of existence into fragments and then says "This is mine", "That is not mine", "This is acceptable", "That is to be rejected". The mind is divisive , exclusive and conflictual by nature. True love knows no such division - it is beyond all the limitations of the mind. The reasons stated for moving away from the relationship seem to be fear based, and hence need to be seriously reevaluated. Results of action that is taken out of fear do not serve us, as in fear, love and centerdness of mind is found missing.
  
  The majority of the relationships are infatuation/attachment based, or atleast start out that way. The mind clings on to the other as a source of pleasure, and becomes dependent. Suffering is caused when the other person is no longer present, or does not respond to us the way we have come to expect.

   We tend to use the word "love" too lightly without realizing what it really is

   Can love that creates hurt, anger, and fear

   be even called love? 

  Can love be selfish? 

  Can love be conditional? 

  Can it be needy?

  Thus, what is more important in any relationship is the ability to discern between love and attachment. Without this, there is bound to be disappointment when we thought was love turns out to be something else. From this perspective, in the long term, relationships will be much more satisfying if we understand ourselves better and there is an underlying foundation of healthy self-esteem in both partners, as opposed to neediness and dependency for each other. Whether we have the necessary emotional/spiritual maturity is the more important question to ask before getting into a committed relationship.
  
  With Love,
  Sudhir

  Friends,
  1.Infatuation if ignored dies a Natural Death
  2.wrong senses once activated,it will be very hard to deactivate later...
  3.when someone is distrubing in normal way ,Just ignore by loading self with more work.An idle mind is devil's workshop...so Don't let your brain think about that person. Juz ignore ignore 100% Ignore.No stupid waits for you all life unless you give a hope that you may accept...
  4.Nothing is certain in life...Nothing is Permanent...we r born single,die single...eveything else...just Comes & goes..Desires have no ends
  5.To love is not to ask anything in return, not even to feel that you are giving something.
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