how important is it to get married ???

Question from Deeps Gugnani:
Mr,Krishnan how important is it to get married and have kids and do whatever the girls are expected to do normally in India? Is it possible to stay alone for whole of our life and still stay happy and content? 

Dear Deeps,

True happiness and contentment is a state of mind. It is an illusion to think that one will be happy when married and unhappy when not married etc. To marry or not is a personal choice. There are single people all over the whole who are desperate to get married. And, there are married people all over the world who want to get out of their marriage. Both are a play of the mind, a movement towards our likes and away from one's dislikes, which change in time.

A marriage can be most beautiful or very miserable, depending on what we bring to it. Ideally, it is a meeting of mind and heart. It is a place to share our joy rather than trying to extract joy from the other. If we are incomplete before marriage, a marriage cannot complete us. It will only amplify what is lacking within us. As long as there is a strong personal ego that is given more importance than the relationship, love and joy will go missing.

I understand that certain societies can have expectations that one must get married. This is because marriage has generally come to be associated with a sense of security, which means the motivation to marry is fear based, hence false. The word "normal" is very subjective. If the majority of the people were abnormal, then the "abnormal" will be called normal and vice-versa! Ultimately, our normal state is that of love nor fear, and hence it is better to follow one's heart and be termed "abnormal" rather than conform with other people's expectations and betray the voice within.

With Love,
Sudhir.Krishnan

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Manisha Sohoni -  Awesome.my heart gave me the same advice and i went wt my heart. And I M HAPPY WT MY PARENTS AND The whole universe , not married. BUT NEVER ALONE.

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Superbbbb...Thanks to sudhir Ji...

• " If the majority of the people were abnormal, then the "abnormal" will be called normal and vice-versa " 

-True, I'm Very very VERY normal  !!

•  it is better to follow one's heart and be termed "abnormal" rather than conform with other people's expectations and betray the voice within.