Archana2345

If you are told that such an one speaks ill of you, make no defence against what was said, but answer, He surely knew not my other faults, else he would not have mentioned these only -Epicurus


ANY FOOL CAN CRITICIZE,

Criticism is something you can easily avoid 
by saying nothing, doing nothing,  being nothing 

CONDEMN, AND COMPLAIN BUT IT TAKES  

CHARACTER  AND
SELF CONTROL  

 TO BE  UNDERSTANDING AND FORGIVING -DALE CARNEGIE


Some people criticize others and put them down just to feel worthy and successful.This usually happens out of a jealousy and inferiority feelings. 

How to deal?? Smile & Ignore !!

Try your best to step away from the situation.Always see the criticism objectively without taking it personally. If it is valid and constructive criticism, it can be used to better a situation. If it is hurtful and not at all helpful, just ignore it!

Msg to critics -

“Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes.
That way, when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have
their shoes.” 

" Oont pe baithe tho bhi....Kutta kata kate.... "

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Question from Anonymous:
Dear Sudhirji, I'm regular follower of your posts and implement them in real life. I want your advice, please guide me. I've been married for 5 years (arranged marriage) From the very beginning, my in-laws don't like whatever I do. They always find fault with me and hurt me with their blunt words. I am not perfect but I've improved over time. I tried to be deaf to their words but I am unable to. This is affecting my life a lot. I don't have my husbands support.

Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for writing to me. Indeed, it is a challenging situation you are in. The energy around you is not supportive and nurturing. There is work for you to do change it around, and it all starts with yourself. You must find your way to more self-empowerment. See, our disempowerment attracts what is like to it - and then the more we resist it, the more of it we get. The cycle goes on until we break it, by changing our point of attraction.

You must work on changing the negative beliefs that you have acquired about your inlaws. This is not to say that these beliefs are not true, but they are beliefs nevertheless as they are active in your vibration, constantly attracting to you the actions arising out of their disempowerment, which is like to the energy you are sending out, albeit unconsciously.

Here are some tips to change your situation:

1) Accept (not tolerate) any of their negative actions, for the time being, without getting hurt.

2) Take responsibility for attracting this situation into your life, without blaming someone for it or resisting it.

3) Ignore any negative situation when it manifest, as much as possible. Do no give undue attention to it. You must gain immunity over the negative, just like one gets vaccinated to gain immunity over a virus.

4) Stop taking their actions personally, for it has nothing to do with you and everything do with their own level of empowerment. When you do it, you immediately disassociate from what is essentially the other person karma.

5) Replace judgement and resentment by empathy, compassion and understanding. When you understand and empathize, it it is hard to judge.

6) Consciously reach out for better feeling thoughts about your family. Make a list of positive qualities about your in-laws. Give thanks for them. Appreciate them from your heart whenever you get an opportunity.

7) Envision a peaceful, harmonious future with your family, where everyone is loving and supportive of each other. Write down how you really want it to be, with emotion. Over time, this will change.

Be the change you want to see in others. Treat your family the way you would want to be treated, with love and respect. An individual who is hurt and resentful does not have much good to give to others, and it is only natural that he will attract back what he gives.

9) Be patient. What you are seeing now is the effect of last 5+ years worth of vibration/karma. All that energy cannot change overnight. However, as you sincerely work on these tips, you will surely expect positive results over time.

Best Wishes and Love,
Sudhir