Letter from a newly married girl to her mother

Dear Maa,

Like every normal girl, I was excited about marriage right from my childhood days.
I never thought beyond the time that I would spend happily with my prince charming.
But today when I am married,

 I realize that

marriage is not all roses.
It’s not just about being with your beloved and
having a gala time.
There is so much more to it. It comes with its own share of responsibilities, duties, sacrifices and
compromises. 

I can’t wake up anytime I want to.
I am expected to be up and ready before everyoneelse in the family.
I can’t laze around in my pyjamas throughout theday.

 I am expected to be presentable every time.

 I have to talk in low voice, respectfully with everyone unlike home where I could scream and shout at
things and demand.
I can’t just go out anytime I want to.

 I am expected to be sensitive to the needs of the family.
I just can’t hit the bed anytime I want to.

I am expected to be active and around the family.

 I can’t expect to be treated like a princess but am supposed to take care of everyone else in the

family.And then I think to myself,

 ‘why did I get married at all?’ 

I was happier with you, mom. Sometimes I
think of coming back to you and

 getting pampered again.
I want someone to cook for me too, run after me to eat food and bring somethingfor me to eat like you
always used to bring whenever you visit market.I want to come home to my favorite food cooked
by you every evening after a nice outing with
friends.I want to sleep on your laps like I have no worry in this world. I want to ask money for my enjoyment
from dad and again from you but now I have to think twice before purchasingeverything. I was
possessive about all my belongings but here I have to allow everyone to use my stuffs because I
cannot annoy anyone. But then I suddenly realize, had you not got married and made such sacrifices in your life, I wouldn’t have had so many wonderful memories to hang on to. And suddenly, the purpose of all this
becomes clear- to return the same comfort, peace and happiness to my new family that I got from
you. And I am sure that as time would pass, I would start loving this life equally as you do.

Thank you mom for all the sacrifices and compromises you made. They give me the strength
to do the same.I will try to be a complete woman like you..
Love you.

• Seeing the water pass glittering through the net of bamboo frame-work, the small fry enter into it with great pleasure, and having once entered they cannot get out again--and are caught. Similarly, foolish men enter into the world allured by its false glitter, but as it is easier to enter the net than to get out of it, it is easier to enter the world than renounce it, after having once entered it.