Triangulation TRAP = త్రికోణ vyuham

 Triangulation is a manipulative tactic used by Manipulators to control and manipulate their victims. It involves involving a third party in a situation to manipulate the outcome, creating a sense of competition or conflict between the victim and the third party.

Sometimes, it also includes Distorted truths, such as manipulating facts or information to skew perceptions or mislead others for personal gain.

Here are some signs of triangulation and self-help strategies to handle it:

 Signs of Triangulation:

1. The Manipulator exaggerates a problem or situation to get a reaction from others. 

2. They show interest in someone else to get attention from their partner. 

3. They compare their partner to other people in a disparaging way to make them feel insecure and inferior.

 4. They keep secrets from their partner, making them feel left out and insecure. 

5. They distort the truth or deny events to make their partner question their own reality.

 6. They blame their partner for the problems in the relationship and seek support from outside sources. 

7. They have an affair to make their partner feel jealous and insecure.

 8. They use the children to get their partner to do what they want or to make their partner feel guilty. 

9. They isolate their partner from their friends and family, making them more dependent on the Manipulator for support.

 10. They overcompensate their affections and love towards others to make their partner feel ignored and undervalued. 

11. They have different standards for their partner than for themselves, making their partner feel inadequate.

12. They create drama or problems, causing their partner to question their own judgment or sanity. 

13. Lowering someone's self-esteem or confidence with the help of other people which makes them more susceptible to manipulation.

14. Group PRESSURE: Using the  influence of a group of people, family members or social circle to manipulate your behaviour or decisions

15. Manipulating by highlighting differences or similarities with other people, like comparing a wife with his mother or sister, to influence behaviour or opinions.

Self-Help Strategies to Handle Triangulation:

 1. Recognize the Signs of Triangulation: The first step is to recognize when triangulation is happening. It often involves the Manipulator using a third party to create tension and drama between you and another person. 

2. Don’t Engage in the Drama: It’s important not to engage in the drama. Manipulators thrive on conflict and drama, and if you respond to their manipulation, it will only give them more power. 

3. Set Healthy Boundaries: Setting healthy boundaries is crucial when dealing with Manipulators, especially when it comes to triangulation. Be clear with the Manipulator that their behavior is not acceptable, and let them know that you will not be part of their drama. 

4. Dealing with a manipulative person and their tactics, like triangulation, can be extremely stressful and emotionally draining. Therefore, it is crucial for you to prioritize your self-care. You should engage in activities that make you feel good and help you relax, such as exercise, meditation, spending time with friends and family, or any other hobby that you enjoy. Taking care of yourself should be your top priority in such situations. 

5. Seek Professional Help: If you feel particularly overwhelmed or are struggling to cope with the Manipulator’s behaviour, it may be helpful to seek professional help. 

Remember that you deserve to be respected, loved, and safety First.