Close people U TRUST manipulate & deceit, to make everything SWEET . Causes : DISASTERS

Betrayal and deception are complex behaviours driven by unconscious motivations and defence mechanisms. Individuals may manipulate and deceive those close to them for various reasons,such as seeking identity, success, material possessions, wealth, or social validation. These actions stem from internal struggles and unspoken desires, often influenced by insecurities, childhood experiences, societal pressures, and coping methods.

 

Projection and displacement, two key defence mechanisms, are particularly relevant to understanding betrayal and deception. They involve attributing one's own undesirable thoughts, feelings, or motives to others and redirecting emotions or impulses from their original source to a substitute target, respectively. 

1)Projection involves attributing one's own undesirable thoughts, feelings, or motives to others

Example of deception involving projection:

Projection: Rani says her husband is a cheater, selfish, and inconsiderate. In reality, Vani prioritizes her own needs above all else and lacks empathy towards others. By projecting her selfish tendencies onto her partner, Rani deflects accountability and creates a false narrative in which She portrays herself more favourably while undermining her husband's character.

2) Displacement entails redirecting emotions or impulses from their original source to a substitute target. 

Example of deception involving displacement: 

Displacement: Raja, a manager at a company, is under immense pressure from his superiors to meet strict targets. Feeling overwhelmed and frustrated, Raja cannot express his anger towards his bosses for setting unrealistic goals. Instead, he displaces his emotions onto his subordinates by micromanaging them, criticizing their work excessively, and creating a toxic work environment. By directing his anger towards his employees, Raja, who is cowardly, avoids direct confrontation with his superiors and displaces his feelings onto a substitute target, causing harm and distress to his team members.

It's important to note that these defence mechanisms operate unconsciously. This allows individuals to rationalize their harmful behaviours by attributing their own motives to others or redirecting their emotions onto different targets. 

Understanding why people hurt others for their own gain involves examining the impact of insecurities, childhood experiences, societal pressures, and coping mechanisms on individual psychology.

Insecurities and fears stemming from emotional struggles and emotional feelings & pains of inadequacy in their Lives MAY contribute to deceptive behaviours. Also early relationships with parents or family members etc can shape personality and behaviour patterns, highlighting the impact of childhood also on adult actions. Societal norms, which play a substantial role in shaping our BELIEFS about success & relationships, also cause these behaviours. Maladaptive coping mechanisms further perpetuate deceptive behaviours as individuals strive to meet unmet needs for security and control. 

When addressing these behaviours, it is important to consider the example of an individual who has cheated others. This individual may adopt rationalizing beliefs and thought patterns to justify their actions. For instance, they might convince themselves that they deserve to pursue their desires & that their actions are justified by their perceived sufferings. These rationalizations may include minimizing the significance of their actions, morally justifying their behaviour, assuming they know what others are thinking, disrespecting the boundaries of others, and selectively paying attention to certain aspects of the situation while ignoring others. It's important to understand the impact of their actions on others, as this can foster empathy and a deeper understanding of the situation.

Betrayal and deception are NOT simple ACTS. They stem from a 

1) Deep misalignment between one's genuine emotions & outward conduct, 

2) A disregard for the boundaries and rights of others, and

3) Deficiency in understanding & empathizing with others. 

Understanding these behaviours requires a comprehensive analysis of psychological and emotional factors, underscoring the importance of thorough research in comprehending and dealing with them.

                So WHY?

1) Underlying psychological motivations, 

2) Defense mechanisms, 

3) Societal & ENVIRONMENTAL influences, 

4) impact of Insecurities, 

5) Childhood Traumas, 

6) Coping tools 

7) Some vary for everyone according to Individual psychology etc