If he slaps you keep turning the other cheek until he gets so frustrated & gives up. Never slap urself, Let him do that

Reactions are NOT about who we are. They're influenced by many things, starting from our early developmental years. It's important not to take responses to heart, whether they come from within us or from others. Digging into the deeper layers of our minds allows us to take the reins and discover the complex origins of our reactions.

This involves recognizing the role of

👉 unconscious drives,

👉 childhood experiences,

👉 societal norms,

👉 external influences that shape our behaviors and reactions.

It is also vital to examine the impact of our thoughts and beliefs, particularly irrational or unhelpful beliefs that contribute to personalized reactions.

Firstly :

💓 Think about why you react the way you do: It's important to understand why we act the way we do in different situations

💓  Look at things that happened in the past: Thinking about things that happened before can help us understand why we respond in certain ways.

💓 Consider how your family and friends influence you: Our family and friends can have a big impact on how we act and feel. It's helpful to think about their influence.

💓  Think about what society expects from you: Society (the people around you) has certain rules and expectations. It's good to think about how these norms affect how you react

💓  By understanding all these things, you can try to control how you react. 💓 

Imagine holding a bright, powerful flashlight in a dark room. As you shine the light around, you start to see the details of everything in the room, revealing the intricacies and complexities that were previously hidden in the darkness. Similarly, considering all these factors and many more allows us to better control how we respond to different situations and understand why we react the way we do. It's like shining a light on why we do what we do!

Reacting impulsively is a common behavior that can be influenced by various factors. Here are ten reasons why people may react impulsively:

1. Emotional triggers: Strong emotions such as anger, fear, or excitement can override rational thinking and lead to impulsive reactions.

2. Stress: High levels of stress can impair decision-making abilities and increase the likelihood of impulsive behavior as a coping mechanism.

3. Lack of self-control: Some people have trouble controlling their impulses because of certain factors such as having a personality trait called impulsivity, which means they tend to act on impulse without thinking about the results, or because of conditions like ADHD which affects impulse control or such other mental problems

4. Habit: Some people may have developed a habit of reacting impulsively without taking the time to consider the consequences.

5. Peer pressure: Social influences and the desire to fit in or conform to a group can lead to impulsive decision-making to seek approval or avoid rejection.

6. Instant gratification: The desire for immediate rewards or relief can drive impulsive actions without considering long-term consequences.

7. Low frustration tolerance: Difficulty in coping with frustration or discomfort can lead to impulsive reactions to relieve the unpleasant feelings quickly.

8. Influence of substances: The use of drugs, alcohol, or other substances can impair judgment and inhibitions, leading to impulsive behavior.

9. Limited information: Making quick decisions with incomplete information or without considering all possible options can result in impulsive reactions.

10. Underlying psychological issues: Conditions such as mood disorders, anxiety, or personality disorders can contribute to impulsivity and impulsive reactions as a coping mechanism.

11. EGO: Vani, a manager at a tech company, faces a challenge when a team member questions her decision in a meeting. Feeling threatened, she impulsively responds defensively to protect her authority and ego. This escalates the conflict, eroding trust and hindering teamwork. 

Man is born free, and everywhere he is in chains. One thinks himself the master of others, and still remains a greater slave than they

- said Rousseau

Abandon the ego; " Be human when you are interacting with other Humans."

28 points on SELF-HELP:

When something bad happens, you have three choices. 

A)You can either let it define you, 

B)let it destroy you, or

C) you can let it strengthen you.

1. Recognize your willpower as Mind Power, the force that enables your mind to govern and guide your thoughts and actions. Equip yourself with self-awareness to understand the sway of your unconscious mind. This understanding will empower you to seize control of your life. 

2. Resolving internal conflicts strengthens your willpower and brings profound relief and peacefulness. This process not only lightens your mental burdens but also brings a soothing calm to your life. 

3. Identifying and addressing unconscious desires and drives that drain your willpower is Important. Example: impulsive eating driven by a passion for comfort or stress relief. Resolving these internal conflicts is vital for personal development and strengthening your willpower.

4. Empowerment starts with challenging our beliefs and emotions and reshaping our thoughts. This process allows you to take control of your inner world, leading to enhanced confidence, well-being, and performance.

 

Example: Vani, a young professional, struggled with negative thoughts such as "I'm not good enough" and "I'll never succeed." However, she learned to challenge these beliefs and reframe them into positive statements like "I am capable and constantly improving." By practicing positive affirmations and self-reflection, she noticed a shift in her emotions. Bhavani also utilized self-help resources like journaling and guided meditations to support her efforts. Over time, she became more confident and resilient, resulting in improved performance and well-being. Taking control of her thoughts and emotions empowered Bhavani to cultivate a growth mindset and take charge of her personal development.

5. Strengthen your willpower by self-examination and pursuing knowledge for personal growth. Address internal conflicts through consistent self-reflection and learning. One effective strategy for this is cognitive restructuring, which involves identifying negative thought patterns and replacing them with more positive and empowering ones.

6. Setting clear boundaries in relationships is not just important, it's crucial. It not only protects your well-being but also fosters healthy interactions, making you feel more secure, respected, and in control in your relationships.

 7. When dealing with toxic people, remember that advocating for yourself is not only important, but it's also empowering. By standing up for your rights, you can take control of the situation and assert your own well-being.

 8. Build strong self-esteem by recognizing your innate value and practising self-compassion. This will help you resist negative influences and navigate toxic environments with resilience. 

9. Use critical thinking and reason to challenge oppressive systems and toxic environments. Example: In my family, there was a tendency for certain members to dominate conversations and dismiss others' viewpoints, creating a toxic environment during family gatherings. I decided to use critical thinking and reason to address this issue. Instead of remaining silent, I respectfully brought up the issue during a family meeting, presenting examples of how the dominating behavior was impacting the entire family. By using critical thinking and reason, I was able to initiate a discussion on the importance of mutual respect and active listening, ultimately leading to a more balanced and harmonious family dynamic.

10. Personal agency: It is the ability to make choices, take action, and maintain control over life circumstances. An example is Rani, a recent graduate who is facing unemployment. She shows personal agency by being resilient and self-aware, taking proactive steps to improve her employability, and demonstrating empowerment and responsibility in navigating adversity.

11. Staying committed to self-care is key. Practice self-care by intentionally identifying and distancing from people or situations that drain your energy.

12. Connect your inner drive to those you care about to revitalize your determination and purpose. For Example, a mother might find a reason and connect the need for her willpower to those for whom she is doing whatever she is doing when she feels her willpower is challenged that makes her bounce back immediately from dead to alive with twice the vigour

13. Recognize that your responses are shaped by your own viewpoints, perceptions, and perspectives to take control of your surroundings.

14 . Learn to disengage from immediate visceral responses to regulate your reactions and shape your environment.

Example: Bhavani A high school student, Sarah, encounters public criticism during a group presentation. Rather than reacting impulsively, she disengages from immediate visceral responses, regulates her reactions, and shapes her environment positively. After composing herself, Bhavani responds with composure and professionalism, showing maturity and openness to constructive criticism. Reflecting on the incident, she takes proactive steps to foster a supportive and respectful environment in her academic community by approaching her teacher to discuss promoting a culture of constructive feedback and mutual respect among peers. This demonstrates her commitment to shaping a positive learning environment with a culture of growth and empathy. Seeking support from friends, family, or professionals can also aid in addressing these challenges.

15. Focus on your goals and resist the temptation to compare yourself with others to enhance your willpower.

16. Engage in spiritual practices to maintain your inner strength.

17. Hone the ability to respectfully decline what does not serve your well-being.

18. Take gradual steps and allow yourself the necessary time and space to heal. 

19. Practice mindfulness to stay present, forgetting the Pains of the past & worries of the Future

20, ACCEPT discomfort as a natural part of personal growth & self-realisation

21. Cultivate positive and empowering affirmations to counter negative thought patterns.

22. Engage in physical activities or exercises to boost your mental and emotional well-being.

23. Practice gratitude to shift your focus from negativity to positivity.

24. Engage in hobbies or activities that bring you joy and strengthen your sense of purpose.

25. Reflect on past successes to remind yourself of your inner strength and capacity for growth.

26. Focus on the present moment and avoid dwelling on past failures or future uncertainties

27. Seek balance in all aspects of your life to enhance your overall well-being and willpower.

28. Remember, self-improvement is a continuous journey, so be patient and kind to yourself along the way. Believe that Peace is within you and within your control in all circumstances and troubles.

Life can throw us curveballs that make us feel hopeless & pessimistic, but that's not the way to live. That attitude does not align with human dignity. The progress we see in the world results from determination & perseverance. Instead of giving up, we should face challenges head-on with courage, vision & grit