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 It's crucial to understand the reasons behind an Indian husband yelling at his wife, not to justify his behaviour but to foster empathy and find a more comprehensive solution. Exploring the underlying causes can provide insight into his perspective and aid in finding a resolution.

1) 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐥𝐢𝐜𝐭 :

Stress is a common reason for a husband yelling at his wife. High stress levels can lead to increased marital conflict. If a husband cannot handle stress well, he may irrationally express his anger through yelling.He must know how to cope with his stress and find balance & calmness

2)𝐈𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐬 :

In the face of mounting pressures such as mental, physical, emotional, FINANCIAL, and psychological stress, it is not uncommon for a husband to react by yelling at his wife. This can be attributed to a combination of factors, including the lack of effective communication channels within the relationship.

3) 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐬: Lack of effective communication skills leaves him struggling to express himself, escalating frustration—breakdowns in communication fuel emotional turmoil, culminating in aggressive yelling.

Understanding how people think, feel, and behave can help us communicate better. Five ego states influence our interactions with others. The P- Ego state reflects the attitudes and beliefs learned imitating from authority figures we know like father, mother or hero. The Adult ego state is logical and objective. The C-ego state embodies emotions and pleasure-seeking behaviour. The AC-ego state reflects learned behaviours shaped by societal norms, ethics, Morals, and discipline. The FC-ego state represents freedom and authenticity. Recognizing these ego states in ourselves and others is crucial to improving our communication skills and building better relationships.

For instance, when the husband assumes a P-ego role, giving instructions, criticisms or judgments, the wife may respond with a rebellious child - C-ego, resisting his authority. However, understanding and recognizing these ego states can resolve this potential conflict.

3) 𝐈𝐧𝐟𝐥𝐮𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐅𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐔𝐩𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 :

The influence of a husband's upbringing can play a significant role in shaping his behaviour towards his wife. He may abuse his wife due to the negative impact of his family background, where he may have witnessed or experienced abuse, aggression, or controlling behaviour within his family dynamic. This upbringing may contribute to his beliefs about 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫, 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥, and appropriate behaviour in a relationship, leading to abusive tendencies towards his partner.

Research suggests that individuals who experience much arguing in their family of origin are more likely to face marriage challenges. This can lead to destructive conflict within the marriage, creating a lower-quality relationship.

4) 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬

Mental health disorders can also contribute to a husband's yelling behaviour. Conditions such as

- depressive states,

- bipolar disorder,

- generalized anxiety disorder,

- social anxiety,

- obsessive-compulsive disorder,

- PTSD, &

- substance abuse

It can be associated with difficulties regulating emotions, leading to outbursts of anger and yelling.

5) 𝐋𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐟 𝐒𝐥𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲:

Lack of sleep can make individuals more irritable, potentially leading to frequent outbursts of yelling. Suppose a husband is not getting enough sleep. In that case, he may become irrationally angry, manifesting as yelling at his wife.

6) 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐠𝐲: Some husbands may yell to control or intimidate their spouses, seeking to assert power and manipulate through fear. By using aggressive and verbal outbursts, these husbands aim to create a sense of dominance within the relationship, impacting their spouse's emotional well-being and creating a toxic dynamic characterized by manipulation and fear.

This behaviour can create a pattern where the husband yells to extract what they want from their partner. Understanding these underlying reasons for a husband's yelling behaviour can provide a starting point for addressing and finding potential solutions. However, seeking professional help to navigate these complex issues is important and ensuring you feel supported and guided in the process.