Rise above their negativity and show them that their toxic behavior won't affect you.

The goal of Toxic People is to trigger you, so how do you stay balanced without reacting?

1. Toxic people aim to trigger you and enjoy watching you lose control. Don't give them what they want. 

2. Know yourself and don't take things personally. 

3. Listen to criticism and feedback, but ignore untruths. Don't defend yourself from attacks of untruths and stand in your power non-reactively. 

4. Observe the drama like a third-party observer and maintain your detachment. 

5. Try the TIME OUT technique to disengage from negative interactions and regain control. 

6. Think rationally and logically, not emotionally. 

7. Take deep breaths or find something humorous to lighten the mood. 

8. Don't let toxic people lower your self-worth. Stand brave in your own shoes. Remember, their behaviour says more about them than it does about you. Don't let it bring you down.

9. Don't give in to their demands and reverse their conditioning plan.

10. Toxic people feed off your reactions, so starve them by staying calm and collected

Detailed Explanation :

They know they have power over you if they can trigger you. They enjoy watching you lose your balance as if it's like watching a movie for them. They enjoy seeing your reaction and your pain. Knowing they can influence, imbalance, and control you feeds their Ego. They want you to act out and do things that they can use against you in the future. Therefore, it's essential to not let them influence you. 

But how can you do that?

1) Know your Truth, Know who you are. 

Having a profound sense of who you truly are is essential to living a fulfilling life. It involves developing a

💓 keen sense of self-awareness,

💓 accepting your strengths and weaknesses,

💓recognizing opportunities for personal growth and

💓addressing any challenges that may hinder your well-being.

When you possess a deep understanding of your values and identity, the opinions of others become less influential, and you can make decisions and choices that are in alignment with your authentic self. Self-awareness empowers you to lead a purposeful and satisfying life that is based on your inner truth and aspirations. .

2) Don't take things personally; the way people treat other people is a direct reflection of the way they feel about themselves.- In Psychology, Projection means " You attribute your own stuff to another person. " A thief thinks all are thieves, and a liar thinks all are liars."

People's actions are a mirror of inner struggles. Don't internalize negativity; see it as a reflection of their issues, not yours. Firmly stand Above it by self-assurance. Your worth is intrinsic, not dictated by external perceptions. Let their projections be a testament to your resilience and unwavering truth. Stay empowered in your self-awareness, unshaken by the opinions of others.

3. Listen to what people say check if the criticism is feedback 

🍁 having something to learn or change in you, do it; 

🍁 if you can say Sorry, Say it and close it. 

🍁 If there is NO TRUTH in their words, Just IGNORE it and move on. 

Remember this quote?

You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.

Do not defend yourself from attacks of untruths; it will make you a Victim. You know what truth is, so just stand in your power. 

👉 No NEED TO PROVE. Just know your truth, 

👉 give them facts, and stand in your power, 

👉 UNAFFECTED and non-reactive.

Don't take abusive words talked before you personally. Look at them as a 3rd party observer in a detached way. 

👀Watch it like it's not happening to you;

 🔎 it is you watching a bathuku jatka bandi kind of show. 

👉  You are not part of it, and don't become part of the drama;

👉  just calmly observe.

👅 Verbalize the drama you are observing in front of you: 

👅"I see that X is upset, 

👅 I see that y is calling me stupid, 

👅 I see that z is laughing at me LoooL. 

;

👉   All these help you to be non-reactive to some extent.

💀 Anyway, the best way is always to avoid people and such situations.

4) 👋👌👋 One technique is TIME OUT, which involves

👋 separating oneself from situations that could CAUSE negative behaviours or emotions.

 👋 It involves Disengaging from situations or behaviours that may provide 𝐭𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐚𝐫𝐲 pleasure of emotional release but ultimately lead to 𝐧𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬. This technique can be a powerful tool for promoting self-awareness, emotional regulation, and adaptive behaviour change. 

💩The primary purpose of TIME OUT is to interrupt an ongoing behaviour pattern or interaction that is unproductive, harmful or causing negativity. 

💤 The technique offers individuals a brief break and a chance to regain composure, reflect on their actions, and choose a different course of behaviour or response. When an individual recognizes that they are engaging in a counterproductive or detrimental behaviour, they can choose to initiate TIME OUT. 

TIME OUT involves

👋 physically leaving a situation or 

 👋 Leaving a conversation, 

👋 pausing or mentally disengaging from the stimulus that is triggering the unwanted behaviour. 

💤The duration of TIME OUT can vary depending on the individual's needs and the context of the situation. 

👉 It is typically a temporary break, allowing the individual time to calm down, gain perspective, and refocus before re-engaging with the situation more constructively. 

TIME OUT promotes self-regulation by encouraging individuals to pause and reflect on their actions, feelings, and motivations. It provides an opportunity 

💚 to regain emotional control, 

💚 manage impulsive reactions, and 

💚 make more deliberate choices in response to challenging situations.

 

During the TIME OUT period, engage in 

💓 self-soothing activities,

 💧 relaxation techniques or 

 ➕ positive coping strategies to manage distress and regain emotional balance. 

This helps shift focus away from the triggering stimuli and towards healthier, more adaptive responses. 

5)👄 Reason Logically and NOT emotionally. Analyze every drama that's in front of you with Logic.

8) 💢 When life throws us a curveball, it can be tough to keep our heads up and stay positive. However, there are a few things we can do to help ease the pain. One option is to

💋👃take deep breaths and practice belly breathing, which can help calm our minds and bodies. Another option is to

😍find something humorous in the situation - after all, laughter is often the best medicine. As the saying goes, life is a comedy to those who think and a tragedy to those who feel. By shifting our perspective and finding the humor in things, we can help alleviate some of the pain and stress that comes with adversity.

9)There are times when people may say hurtful things to you. It is important to understand that some individuals may resort to verbal attacks as a means of boosting their own ego. By putting you down, they feel a temporary sense of superiority over you. However, it is essential that you do not entertain this behaviour. Instead, try to remain non-reactive and do not give them the satisfaction of knowing that their words have affected you. If you react, it will only give them the sense that they have achieved their goal of making you feel inferior. Remember, their intention is to devalue you, which, in turn, makes them feel better about themselves. It is important to recognize this behaviour for what it is and not allow it to bring you down.

10) Always remember that you should never let someone else's words or actions intimidate you. Instead, you should stand tall and confident in your own shoes, no matter who you're up against. Doesn't matter how great he or she is, it's crucial to maintain your own sense of self-worth and self-respect. Remember that you are just as deserving of respect as anyone else, and you have the power to stand up for yourself and assert your own needs and boundaries. So don't be afraid to speak your mind and stay true to yourself, even in the face of opposition. 

11) Start not giving in to their demands. Do not let them condition you. When you start NOT giving in to their demands, you are preparing them in reverse, telling them not to play with you and helping them know their boundaries.

12) walk away from the situation. Agree to Disagree & walk away. Avoiding before it becomes complex is always the best. Avoid the heated moment if it is disrespectful, demeaning, or too demanding and get back to them later to resolve it peacefully. 

Hey -- 

"You are not in a mood to discuss now; you are upset; please cool down; we can talk peacefully when you are cool; it's not the right time to talk as you are yelling, so we can talk later when you are cool."

13) Never speak or do something that you may regret later

14) Only respond, don't react. If at all you decide to respond, do it without any emotions. Do not overshare, Do not Justify; just respond with facts in brief.

15) say phrases like " I agree that it is your perception, I agree that you see it that way but.., you have ur perception and you are entitled to your own thoughts just I am to my thoughts."

16) RESPOND DON'T REACT

When you react to a person's negative comments or actions in an angry, overly emotional or aggressive way, 

👉 then you are giving that person power over you. If a person can easily get a rise from you, then you are no longer in control.

If you take a moment and respond in a calm, healthy, honest and real way, then you are in control. You are not allowing anyone to take your power away or invoke a reaction from you. 

Unfortunately, there are certain people who want nothing more than to make you look bad by provoking you to react in a hostile or negative manner. (Feel free to disappoint them)

17) Keep ALL communication with toxic people - B.I.F.F.

👅 Brief

👅 Informative

👅 Friendly

👅  Firm

💓short and sweet" and to the point" and record ( so when they change words, you can show it )

18) Don't J A.D. E. because Liars know that they are lying. No point in proving them. JADE means

• 🆇 Justify.
• 🆇 Argue.
• 🆇Defend.
• 🆇Explain
• Your goal here is to discourage the DRAMA

 

Stay strong and confident in who you are, and NEVER let toxic people shake your foundation.